Today I feel inspired to share my journey and a certain decision I made in my life. About 4 years ago I met a therapist called Pat Allen and she has very strong believes on relationships. In 2012 she advised me that I shouldn’t be sleeping with someone that wasnt committed to me and I shouldn’t ever move in with a man without being engaged first, when I heard that I felt ashamed, guilty and bad, didn’t go to see her anymore. It took me 4 years and much experiences for me to arrive in the same advice I received when I was only 21 years old. Now I have read her books and share most of the same beliefs.
Here is a link to great advice she gives to men and women: https://feasttofamine.wordpress.com/2011/09/01/relationship-advice-from-pat-allen/
End of August I made the decision to stay celibate until I have a trusting boyfriend that believes the same core values as me (marriage and positive influence). Of course I had experiences and life lessons that lead me to that but I feel my intuition always have been guiding me there. I always have been more attracted by minds and experiences than visualization. This wasn’t a decision based on religion, this was a personal decision based on cherishing who I am and my goals in life.
Reasons I decided to stay celibate:
1- Gives me time to focus on connection first.
2-The obvious prevents Std’s.
3-Boosts non sexual intimacy (how amazing is to be hungry by someone’s mind).
4-It creates more time to know yourself.
5-It is empowering.
6-Makes you treat your body better.
7-Creates confidence outside your looks.
8-Attracts the right kind of man/woman and keep the wrong ones at distance.
Hope I inspired or at least made someone out there reflect. Much love always!!